Why do we like the person who doesn’t like us back?
This is for those who admires a person secretly. This is for you. This is for us.
Oh, how you love those little sparkles you see in his eyes. Or you wonder why her smiles are so beautiful. He shines whenever you see him. Her hair beautifully moves with her. You always see amazing things for the person you like. It doesn’t matter if they have a bad personality or what. It just makes him or her a human being because you know that every person has flaws.
Most of us fall for the person who is close to us. So when we realize that we like them (not as a friend, of course), we tend to keep it as a secret. If we can just say, “I like you so please like me back,” maybe all of us are already dating the person we like. But the thing is they are close to us, which means that we cannot fall for them. We don’t want them to feel awkward towards us or turn their backs on us. Here comes our what ifs. “What if he doesn’t like me back?” or “What if he does?” but “What if he or she doesn’t want to be friends with me anymore?” Those were the things that we usually ask ourselves. We consider the point of view of the other. This is because there are things that we may sacrifice. It’s like boating under a typhoon weather. It’s risky. It’s either you die or you die. There’s a chance that you might survive, but that’s 20% chance. So, uh, you die. In this case, we’ll just choose to keep it to ourselves. That is why the person we like doesn’t like us back.
But what if you already told the person you like that you like them?
First, if the response is in your favor, then good. Be happy. And they lived happily ever after…
But second, if the response is the other way around, accept it. You cannot force the person you like to like you the way you like them. Start convincing yourself that maybe it’s not meant to be. Unless you came expecting the response will be positive. You might be taking the wrong track.
Most of the time, when the response doesn’t resulted the way we wanted, we always say that it’s their fault. It’s their fault for letting us fall for them. But most of the time, we are getting the wrong signals. Well, here’s the question. Have you ever consider that maybe he just wanted to be a good friend? Or have it ever crossed your mind that maybe she is just sweet because that is what she is?
Even the smallest things they did for us, our hearts will just be stunned. Why? We are meant to like them. Have you ever been in a situation where there’s a person that is really good to us and likes us but we don’t like them as much as they like us? But what can we do? We might like them as a friend or as a person, but same as theirs? Not. It doesn’t make sense, right? Love doesn’t make sense. We just felt it, we don’t know why, we don’t know when. You just felt it and you cannot help it. The more you decided to stop your feelings for him or for her, the more your feelings gets deeper. We must feed our souls with love at least once, right? Even if it’s a one-sided love.
Love doesn’t always comes in our favor. We have set some standards, but none of it came with one person. We will just be surprised to like the person we least expected.
Do not expect that person to like you the way you like them. Do not hate them. Just continue liking that person. Keep yourself inspired. If it’s hurting you, focus on yourself. You will still be loved.